Follow Us

  • LinkedIn Social Icon
  • Facebook Social Icon
  • Twitter Social Icon

July 3, 2016

“Inviting others in is the practice of accepting the discomfort of fear.”

-Ruby Johnson

The Myth

What does “good at poly” mean? I hear this statement often. The scenario that typically precedes this self-judging statement is the person criticizing their own feelings of “j...

June 23, 2016

How do you know when you are compromising your worth?

Jenny is a 28 year old woman. She has been within her corporate career since graduating with her MBA at 21. She has been with her partner since age 15. She is originally from Washington State and moved to Texas for h...

April 25, 2016

As I travel to Seattle for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom’s Consent Summit, I reflect on the collaborative process of preparing for the workshop with a co-facilitator that I have never met. The title and subject matter for the workshop is “Consent and Negoti...

April 11, 2016


I am reading a lot more dialogue around narcissism and intimate relationships. I work with many types of clients and my work with couples on narcissism is some of the most challenging work that I do.


I find I must strike a balance between engaging the n...

March 22, 2016

Inviting In, Accepting To© is a workbook for those persons who are considering inviting other emotional, mental, or physical relationships with others into their lives through the practice of consent, power, and communication. In my experience, thus far, with consensua...

March 14, 2016

Impostor syndrome was originally coined in the article, by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, “The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention” published in the Journal Psychotherapy Theory, Research, and Practice in 1978. Impostor...

February 25, 2016

In the Urban dictionary, thirst is the lust or want of someone. Over the last few days, I have had many discussions about sexuality, intimacy, and love within the black American community. As a result of those discussions, I am inspired to blog a three part series that...

February 14, 2016

Will you be my sweetheart?


As a kid in elementary school, I remember the time of year when I had to purchase “sweethearts” for the classmates I loved (or, deeply liked is more realistic). We had all types of sweethearts: crush sweethearts, cute sweethearts, secret admi...

February 8, 2016

What does power mean? If I have no power, how am I responsible for my decisions?


As an addiction professional, I have heard these questions more often than not when working with my clients. In recovery, powerlessness is the inability to stop the behavior/using despite...

February 2, 2016


"Something is missing?"
"I am so uncomfortable and I don't understand why?"
"I have a job, home, wonderful partner, and family, it doesn't seem to be enough."

These questions are asked regularly in my practice. The confusion and longing for an answer to the life's me...

Please reload

Featured Posts

My Interview on Black Sexuality

July 29, 2016

Please reload

Recent Posts
Please reload